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Lawnmower parents now
« on: March 18, 2019, 12:21:56 PM »
You know about helicopter parents - now meet the lawnmower parents!

https://www.weareteachers.com/lawnmower-parents/

I hope to become a parent someday, so I guess I'd better choose the vehicle I want to be. Tank? Ice cream truck? Cement mixer? Vespa?
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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #1 on: March 18, 2019, 12:26:27 PM »
You know about helicopter parents - now meet the lawnmower parents!

https://www.weareteachers.com/lawnmower-parents/

I hope to become a parent someday, so I guess I'd better choose the vehicle I want to be. Tank? Ice cream truck? Cement mixer? Vespa?

I read that URL as "wereteachers.com"
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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #2 on: March 18, 2019, 12:29:06 PM »
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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #3 on: March 18, 2019, 01:10:05 PM »
Thinking back to my childhood, from the title I thought it was something about a kid who was now old enough to mow the lawn and had that added to his/her chores by Mom & Dad . . .

Silly me.  :facepalm:
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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #4 on: March 18, 2019, 01:32:59 PM »

I hope to become a parent someday, so I guess I'd better choose the vehicle I want to be. Tank? Ice cream truck? Cement mixer? Vespa?

Try not to become a bulldozer parent. Perhaps a scooter parent would be about right.



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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #5 on: March 18, 2019, 02:31:34 PM »
For my kids, SWMBO and I developed a nuclear deterrence policy with most teachers and coaches.  Supported them in terms of making the kids do the work, holding the kids accountable for missed work or poor grades, etc. 


Oh, but if you screw with our kid?  We will nuke you.  Just so you know.
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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #6 on: March 18, 2019, 02:42:34 PM »
I have a rule...the more “unique” the name the worse the coddling and spoiling and the worse the kid will turn out to be.
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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #7 on: March 18, 2019, 03:01:39 PM »
I hope that my children will remember me for telling them "Figure it out."

My son is (so far) the worst about this and wanting to quit when things get a little tough. I am, however, seeing hope in how, after we worked on some of his new lego sets together, he wanted to do them on his own.*

I want my job to be to prepare them for the world, not clear the world for them. I also know we are outliers in a lot of ways in this culture. (Usually purposely so.)


*No, not do the same one over. They were 3-in-1 sets and he wanted to make the different things on his own.
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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #8 on: March 18, 2019, 03:03:16 PM »
I have a rule...the more “unique” the name the worse the coddling and spoiling and the worse the kid will turn out to be.


Hold on now. Making fun of peoples' names is racist, and will get your thread locked. Racist.

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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #9 on: March 18, 2019, 04:35:22 PM »
I’m talking about strictly white “unique” names...
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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #10 on: March 18, 2019, 04:45:20 PM »
I’m talking about strictly white “unique” names...


I'm not prejudiced when it comes to silly names.
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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #11 on: March 18, 2019, 04:51:58 PM »
Lawnmower, Helicopter, whatever the next fad phrase is for parents who don't parent, it doesn't matter. The result is the same. Entitled brats who can't function, even *with* their stupid "safe spaces" crayons and juice boxes.
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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #12 on: March 18, 2019, 05:07:01 PM »
Lawnmower, Helicopter, whatever the next fad phrase is for parents who don't parent, it doesn't matter. The result is the same. Entitled brats who can't function, even *with* their stupid "safe spaces" crayons and juice boxes.

No, no -- Crayons are not allowed in safe spaces. First, they contain substances known to the State of California as being potentially carcinogenic. Secondly, kids might eat them, and one of the little buttercups might have an allergic reaction.
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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #13 on: March 18, 2019, 06:31:56 PM »
No, no -- Crayons are not allowed in safe spaces. First, they contain substances known to the State of California as being potentially carcinogenic. Secondly, kids might eat them, and one of the little buttercups might have an allergic reaction.

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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #14 on: March 18, 2019, 08:18:39 PM »
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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #15 on: March 18, 2019, 09:05:51 PM »

I hope to become a parent someday

You better hurry up, you don't want to be retirement age before kiddos are graduating from high school.
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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #16 on: March 18, 2019, 09:26:11 PM »
No, no -- Crayons are not allowed in safe spaces. First, they contain substances known to the State of California as being potentially carcinogenic. Secondly, kids might eat them, and one of the little buttercups might have an allergic reaction.


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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #17 on: March 18, 2019, 11:22:59 PM »
makattak remarked,

"I want my job to be to prepare them for the world, not clear the world for them."

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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #18 on: March 19, 2019, 03:43:17 PM »
I’m talking about strictly white “unique” names...
Yep. I coached little league for about 7 years. Unique names more often than not, fall into 2 camps:
-Single mom, kid has to be taught how to throw a baseball (not the kid's fault), 50/50 whether or not the kid throws tantrums. Either one in this case have been fixable- teach kid to throw a ball and by the end of the season, he's catching up to his teammates. Having team or individual run laps around outside of field, and giving encouragement for good sportsmanship usually fixes the latter.
-Kid is special, and the parents scream at the umps and coaches if things don't go the kid's way, about 80/20 the kid throws tantrums. Not much can be done about these.

I can only remember having two 'problem' players with a traditional name.
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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #19 on: March 19, 2019, 05:13:23 PM »
The anecdote about the water bottle reminds me of something that happened last year. I was working at a side job, installing LED tubes at a preschool. The guy running the job brought his teenaged grandson. He was helpful enough, and only slightly obnoxious, for a teenaged boy. At some point, Grandpa got him a bottled water, and Grandkid was glad, because he's "not a tap water kid."  :facepalm:

Which reminds of what happened last weekend. Once again, I was installing LED tubes, and a teenager was sent to "help" me. I asked him to take 2 LED tubes out of the thin, paper and cardboard sleeve. The sleeves fit pretty tightly, but you could still slide them off the tube. This guy couldn't get anywhere that way, so he started tearing little scraps off at each end, until he could finally manage to pull the tube out of the sleeve. The first time he did this, nothing went wrong. It just took longer than if I had done it myself, and made a mess on the floor. The second time, in his fumbling around, he let the end of the tube thump good and hard on the floor, breaking the pins.  :facepalm:

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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #20 on: March 19, 2019, 05:21:38 PM »
The anecdote about the water bottle reminds me of something that happened last year. I was working at a side job, installing LED tubes at a preschool. The guy running the job brought his teenaged grandson. He was helpful enough, and only slightly obnoxious, for a teenaged boy. At some point, Grandpa got him a bottled water, and Grandkid was glad, because he's "not a tap water kid."  :facepalm:

 

I'm pretty sure had I said that to my Grandpa Ed, I'd have gotten bopped on the head. Grandpa Frank would have just given me A Look.
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Re: Lawnmower parents now
« Reply #21 on: March 20, 2019, 10:54:01 AM »
According to this article, helicopter, lawnmower, and bulldozer parenting are basically the same thing.

https://www.parents.com/parenting/better-parenting/what-is-helicopter-parenting/

I guess I'm a satellite parent -- I orbit so far above my daughter's sphere of activity that I need massive technology to even try to detect what she's up to.
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