"What about those external combustion trains, aka steam powered? They must of had one helluva clutch to engage. The steam trains I have been around have forward and reverse gears."
But they don't have a CLUTCH.
They have drive pistons that are linked directly to the wheels.
Steam enters the drive pistons and exerts increasing force until either the wheels slip or the force starts to overcome the train's inertia.
The engineer would, with the "throttle," open a series of valves that would allow increasing amounts of steam into the drive cylinders.
There was no clutch plate, no clutch, no friction surface, no throw out bearing, etc. Just steam pressure in the drive cylinders.
Reversing wasn't done by "gears" either. Throwing the reversing lever changed the valve configuration and how steam entered the drive cylinders.
Here's a page with a better explanation, including animations showing the drive pistons and slide valves work to directed the flow of steam and power the system:
http://www.keveney.com/Locomotive.html